Wednesday, February 16, 2005

Quarter Life Crisis

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going

along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many

things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You

start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or

two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are


You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those

friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the

greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost

touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't

recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really

cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as


You look at your job...and it is not even close to what you

thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and

realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and

that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing

and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you

realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are

constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and

what isn't.

One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh

and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and

scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and

cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the

past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to

do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could

do such damage to you. Or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't

meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or

maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure

out why you are doing this because you know that you aren\'t a bad


One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting

wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go

through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk

with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to

make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and

making a life for yourself.....and while winning the race would be

great, right now you\'d just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to

it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as

hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

----By an anonymous kindred soul

When I read this it seemed like as if someone stalked me day and night and wrote these lines. Then I realised that quite a few of us are stuck here, being twenty something..... where the carefree years are gone and the bright but sometimes bleak future beckons!

Thanks Ajay for forwarding this to me decades ago


At 10:28 PM, Blogger Vignesh said...

I didn't realise this was a forward. I kept reading and I was like, damn, shes talking to ME !! Guess you felt the same way huh ! What is funny is that even though we all go through it, even putting all our collective learnings together, we can't find a 'solution' to it. Whatever that may be...

At 4:23 AM, Blogger Vishnu said...

Its rumoured that all american presidents know the true purpose of life.Lucky guys,isnt it.

At 8:17 PM, Blogger L*J said...

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At 8:31 PM, Blogger L*J said...


Hmmm.... these words are one huge mass biography for all of us, isnt it?
Its fun and adventurous not to know what lays ahead for us.
A brand new day beckons us to undo harms and kindle smiles:)
Hope rocks


I doubt, they dont know whats the purpose of theirs!!


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