Wednesday, March 16, 2005

Arrrrrrgggggggh

Is it suddenly fashionable to be heart broken?
I have seen a few of my friends whose daily goal is to walk around with that sullen face with "sheesha ho ya dil ho" kinda song repeatedly playing in their head. Lifes full of ups and downs guys, stop making a big deal out of things which "especially" dont result in anything productive.

I am just tired of asking these friends to move on. I have lost quite a few of them for asking them to make this intelligent choice and some are in the process of breaking their ties with me.
Well lemme tell you that I am not interested in shifting my career to being a counselor or agony aunt, but when u see ur perfectly normal friend acting extremely bizzare and sometimes downright 'stupid' u have gotto get your hands dirty.

The truth is guys whenever theirs a breakup, believe me its your friends and family who take the toll. They may not be as hurt as you are, but they definitely are hurt- mostly by your behaviour, your attitude to life and most often because of the pathetic state you guys put yourself into, when you think the whole worlds against you.

For many of us, friends are emotional crutches. We tell each other things that our parents would faint, if they ever heard us. Believe me when I tell you that your friends know you better than you know yourself. So stop treating us like shit whenever you guys feel like and we can help you only as much as you want to help yourself.

Almost 98% of the people I have met have got their hearts broken sometime or the other in their life time, some, more than once! Not all of us are walking around in that Devdas mode getting ourselves drunk crazy and not all of us act like suicidal maniacs.
Heres the point guys, life seems to have ended and it seems like you just cant go on, without that special someone, But believe me, "IT DEFINITELY" does.

Firstly stop putting all your hopes and dreams on that one person. Remember after all she or he is human. They are also governed by laws of physics and society. They also hurt and feel, they also have families and friends, they also have a life. Secondly, remember that you have a life too and that there are people who have all their hopes on you. Remember that you only have one life, dont waste your precious youth by putting on all this unnecessary misery and pain. Not many people get that one chance to turn their lives around. Let it not be too late guys, you can sulk later in hell. RIGHT NOW is the moment to do the things you wanted to do, right now is the time to fly and touch the sky.

Life goes on guys, its high time you caught up with her

So stop being such babies, grow up and be mature to choose happiness over misery. And please stop being a pain in the lives of your family anf friends

Move on, oh please move on!

13 Comments:

At 10:51 PM, Blogger Divya said...

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At 10:52 PM, Blogger Divya said...

Brilliant Lyn..i have found a new words tell my heart-broken frndz now

 
At 10:52 PM, Blogger Divya said...

Brilliant Lyn..i have found a new words tell my heart-broken frndz now

 
At 11:26 PM, Blogger naveen said...

itni philosophy kaiku re??..jobless as ever.

 
At 5:37 AM, Anonymous Saj said...

Nice entry Lyn.

On the other hand, some people find its difficult to move on. Because at some point in life, you will meet someone who is worth to keep till your last breath. You will start dreaming about your future with them.If your realtionship was deep and matured then both of you build up an understanding and trust between each other. And one fine day something wrong happened and there you are , all alone...

I agree your parents,friends every one of them will be there with you. But don't you think at times we all need someone special to comfort us, just to share our thoughts ? Just to hold your hand and say, "Hey, cheer up!!!"

That makes all the difference. I belive its natural for people to take time to comeback from a heart break. Its not that easy like you mentioned. I agree life moves and you can not bring back all the good time, but ... Deep inside it hurts. So I guess whoever it is .... give them their space and time ... Time heals ......but the mark of the wound remains. :-)

 
At 8:19 PM, Blogger L*J said...

Guys these were my personal views and each is entitled to their own.

 
At 9:33 PM, Blogger AdHocQuirks said...

was fishing, found some real good words in this work mate...

 
At 9:59 PM, Blogger L*J said...

Thank you adHocQuirks, well I expected a lotta brickbats for this, its nice to be surprised!!
U have a great blog there:)

 
At 9:58 PM, Anonymous Geetha said...

Nice post Lynate.

You should touch upon how do I 'move on'?

 
At 10:02 PM, Blogger L*J said...

Thanx Geetha, I dont mind writing abt it, it shd be out soon.

 
At 10:34 PM, Blogger sanity_sucks said...

its easier said than done Lyn... i know what ur tryin to say but again... it aint as easy... i say let them or us or whatever be... the flash dies but the scar remains...

 
At 10:39 PM, Blogger L*J said...

This is from a person who has doen it Elwin.

 
At 6:05 AM, Blogger Vamsi said...

yaaaaiiiiieeee..... what are you up to???? Starting 'The art of handling breakups' ? :D

But, very very nice & true indeed... well said.

 

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